Jordan Kilpatrick
Clinical Director · RPHelps men understand what's driving their reactions so they can feel clearer, steadier, and more in control.
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Online therapy for men in Ontario
Change the pattern.
For men who keep losing control, shutting down, or repeating the same patterns - even when they're trying hard to change.
Book a Free ConsultationFree 30-minute call · No waitlist · Ontario-licensed therapists
Trying harder is not changing the pattern
43+
Years combined experience
100%
Online across Ontario
Free
30-minute fit call
Action plan
Every session
Sound familiar?
Emotions feel harder to control.
Reactions arrive before thinking.
Relationships grow distant or cold.
Old habits repeat despite the cost.
You're not broken. You're running a pattern that once made sense. The work is figuring out what's driving it - and replacing it with something better.
Why men choose The Brotherhood
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You leave every session with something to do.
Understanding the pattern matters. So does knowing what to do when it shows up again. We help you turn insight into practice with clear skills, honest reflection, and specific actions to try between sessions.
At The Brotherhood, the work is meant to follow you into real life: the argument, the shutdown, the urge, the moment you want to handle differently. You leave with a clearer way to respond, something concrete to practise, and accountability to keep changing outside of session.
If you are ready for therapy that is focused, practical, and built for real change, you are in the right place.
Jordan Kilpatrick, Clinical Director & Registered Psychotherapist
The team
Men who know this work
Men who know this work
from the inside.
Every therapist here is a man who has done this work in his own life.
Aaron Lorenz
Registered Social WorkerHelps men who've built their lives around surviving - and are ready to start actually living.
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Andrew Garnet
RSW · MSWHelps men understand what's underneath their anger so they can stop the patterns that keep damaging their relationships.
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Mo Shabib
RP (Qualifying) · EMDRHelps men process what they've been carrying so it stops showing up in their relationships and daily life.
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Your first call is with Joe.
Joe will ask what's going on, answer your questions, and help you figure out whether Brotherhood is the right fit. No pitch. No pressure.
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How it works
Three steps.
Three steps.
No pressure.
Free consultation
A 30-minute call. No commitment, no pitch. Just a conversation to see if it's a good fit.
Matched with the right therapist
Based on what you're working through, you're connected with the therapist whose experience fits yours.
Sessions with a clear direction - and an action plan
Every session has a focus. You leave with something concrete to try. The next session starts with a check-in on what you tried. You'll know early whether it's working.
Common questions
What you probably want to know.
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Sessions are $185/hour. Many extended health plans in Ontario cover sessions with registered psychotherapists or registered social workers, but the amount depends on your plan. Check under "psychotherapy" or "social work" in your benefits booklet, or call your provider directly.
We also offer direct billing for social work coverage. If direct billing matters to you, ask during your free consult and we can discuss matching you with one of our team members who can provide it. Direct billing depends on your plan and can only be confirmed when we try billing it. If direct billing is not available through your plan, you can still pay for your session and submit a receipt to your insurer for reimbursement. That is usually quick and easy. - 100% online. Most men find this easier - no waiting room, no commute, no running into someone you know. You can do a session from your car, home, or office - anywhere you have an hour and a door that closes.
- Our team offers EMDR, CBT, DBT-informed skills, ACT, mindfulness-based approaches including MBSR and MBCT, and parts-based/IFS-informed work. You can ask about a specific approach during your free consult. Joe will not choose a treatment plan for you, but he can listen to what you are looking for and help match you with a therapist whose training and style fit. Your therapist will build the treatment plan with you once you begin.
- A 30-minute call with Joe. He'll ask what's going on and what your goals are. If we can help, he'll let you know. If we're not the right fit, he'll tell you that too.
- Most men notice something shifting in the first 1-2 sessions. Not fixed - but shifting. The patterns that took years to build take time to change, but you'll know early whether it's working.
- Most of the men here started the same way. Skeptical, a little uncomfortable, not sure what to say. That's fine. You don't have to know how to do this - you just have to show up.
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The first step
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In 30 minutes with Joe, you'll have more clarity on what's going on than most men get from months of trying to figure it out alone.
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In his own words
In 2019, my relationship blew up when I found out my partner was cheating on me.
Truthfully, this hit me like a truck.
Rage. Shame. Grief. A crushing fear that I'd never trust anyone again. I had no idea what to do with any of it.
So, I did what most guys do. I bottled it up and numbed it out.
Gaming.
Weed.
Porn.
Alcohol.
Anything to escape.
But these were the things had been messing up my relationship in the first place.
I needed real answers. A way to pull myself out of this mess for good.
So I searched - books, podcasts, therapy, anything that would help me get my shit together...
... and I kept coming up empty.
Nothing clicked. Nothing felt like a full solution.
On the brink of giving up, I looked in the one place I never wanted to go.
My own feelings.
Turns out, that's right where the solution was.
Better yet, I also accidentally found simple, step-by-step solutions that actually dealt with them!
For the first time, the constant anger and worries faded. The bad habits disappeared. And I finally could show up like a real man in my relationships.
I finally felt clear, confident, and in control.
Over the next few years, I mastered my emotions, created my dream relationship with my now-wife, and spend my days as a psychotherapist helping other men.
I love getting to share what I've learned with other men and watch them completely transform their lives too.
If you're looking for change, click the button to apply, and let's help you become the man you know you can be.
In his own words
Trauma. That dirty word that clings to so many.
Childhood experiences early in life left me scared, angry, and unable to process emotions in a healthy way.
The pain increased, and by the age of 16 I was dropped out of school and relying on escapism through video games, which escalated to alcohol and drug abuse.
... Loneliness,
Confusion,
Fear,
Hurt,
All ran my life.
Handfuls of medications left me numb, secluded, and sedentary. Unable to find energy to even get out of bed, weight gain of over 140 lbs followed.
Contemplation of suicide not only became a plan, but a goal.
One final attempt at finding myself followed, and I took the step to talk to a counsellor about my pain.
That single connection turned out to be life changing.
I was encouraged to connect with my emotions, my community, and myself again.
I'm now able to be the man, father, and partner that I want to be, and have the honour of working with other men to help them accomplish the same.
If you are looking for real change, fill out the application form and I look forward to meeting you!
In his own words
If anger, frustration, or emotional reactions are beginning to affect your relationships — you are not alone.
Maybe communication with your partner keeps breaking down. Maybe small things escalate quickly, you shut down emotionally, or afterward you are left regretting how things came out.
You care deeply about your relationships. But you still feel stuck in patterns you do not want to keep repeating.
This is work I care deeply about.
Over the course of my career, I've seen how unmanaged anger and emotional disconnection can slowly damage relationships, self-esteem, and overall well-being.
What often looks like "anger" on the outside can actually be something else entirely:
Loneliness.
Pressure.
Resentment.
Hurt.
Exhaustion.
Feeling unheard for far too long.
Many people carry this silently while trying to hold everything together.
My approach is not about blame or judgment. It's about helping you understand yourself, develop healthier ways of responding, and build stronger, more connected relationships.
Meaningful change is possible. And working on yourself can have a powerful impact — not only on your own life, but on the relationships that matter most to you.
In his own words
Trauma wasn't something I learned about in a classroom.
It was something I witnessed.
Witnessing the war in Syria firsthand, I was exposed early to what fear, instability, and survival do to people - how it shapes the way you think, the way you react, and the way you relate to others.
And like many men, I learned how to adapt.
Stay composed.
Push things down.
Keep moving forward.
From the outside, it can look like strength.
But underneath, it's a different story.
Because what isn't processed doesn't disappear.
As Carl Jung put it:
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
I've seen that play out - in my own life, and in the lives of the men I've worked with.
Patterns repeating.
Reactions that don't make sense.
Relationships breaking down without fully understanding why.
That's what led me deeper into this work.
Not just to understand trauma - but to actually process it.
Through my training in counselling psychology, and approaches like EMDR and parts-based therapy, I learned how to work with what's underneath the surface - where these patterns actually live.
Now, I help other men do the same.
My work focuses on trauma, emotional regulation, and relationships - helping you understand what's driving your behaviors so you can take back control in a real, lasting way.
Because real change doesn't come from pushing things down.
It comes from facing them - and understanding what's been running in the background all along.